For better or worse, Facebook is the dominant social network in the world, and that makes it incredibly useful for finding people to meet abroad. Start by searching for “My friends who live in [destination city or country]” (type it into the top bar) to see who you’re already connected to in the area.
These people assume that I not only have friends, but that I have so many friends I don’t even know who they are and where they live!
3. Partner Dancing
Blues, salsa, swing, and Argentine tango: the world of partner dancing is robust, inclusive of beginners, and a shockingly easy way to meet new people in almost any large city.
I DO NOT DANCE. I have never and will never.
6. Online Dating
The key thing to know about online dating websites and apps like OkCupid and Tinder is:
Fuck you for even saying the word “tinder.” Now you’ve got me thinking how unconscionable and blatantly shallow this society is
…you can use these tools to genuinely connect with neat-looking people…
*facepalm* fuck you and everything you stand for.
Ok so we got the ridiculous/offensive stuff out of the way. The article does have some good suggestions, let’s look at some of them:
…one the least awkward places to strike up a random conversation. Do this by hanging out in the common rooms and kitchen, offering to help cook a group meal, sitting in the lobby reading an interesting-looking book…
A good suggestion. For a normal person. For someone who’s had plenty of experience talking to and befriending people, and because of this is perfectly capable of carrying conversations with people and bonding with them. This is not me. I never had any friends. I haven’t had friends since I was 12. Wait, there was the girl in the hospital when I was 15. I’ve noticed it got worse after I lost my online friends. Before, it was already a major obstacle, I had a lot of work to do to be able to talk to and befriend people in any sort of normal fashion. After, it’s been hard even online. I lose interest in people quickly. I don’t trust them.
When people tried to talk to me in New York, even fleetingly, it just wasn’t happening. I was uncomfortable and just wanted it to end. The person I was sitting next to at the Late Show was very friendly and outgoing (she got pulled up on stage) and I just responded to her dismissively. Seemingly healthy, happy people talked to me in the park, I think to one of them I didn’t really respond at all when they made a joke and I felt terrible about it because I’d love to meet and bond with people at that place, my Happy Place. There are people who try, especially in the US (not so much in Norway), but I’ve no experience with it and old confidence issues caused by bullying in my teens are hard to shake. It may be a lack of interest caused by distrust.
Wow look at that wall of text. What I meant to say is, even in ideal situations, striking up random conversation (and maintaining that conversation, to the point where we can add each other on social media and become friends) is near impossible. Actually, scratch “near”.
A website designed specifically for help travelers meet each other, TravBuddy boasts more than 500,000 users — both travelers and locals — who seem to be active in even the most remote corners of the globe. $10 lifetime access fee.
Wow, hadn’t heard of, that sounds pretty neat! 500 000 worldwide is NOT a lot of members, though.
YES! I am interested!